Brené Brown was interviewed by Jonathan Fields on the ‘Good Life Project’. At the end of the interview he asked her: “What does a good life mean to you?”
For me, a good life is one that happens when you stop and are grateful for the ordinary moments that so many of us just steam roll over to try and find those extraordinary moments.
So to me, a good life is soccer practice, car pool line, tuck ins, date night — and that’s a good life for me. And knowing that it’s good, acknowledging and saying ‘this is good’.”
In those ordinary moments when I’m present and acknowledging that this is in fact my good life, it takes away the pressure of feeling like there’s something else I’m supposed to be doing. Something bigger, something grander. It brings me peace.
And yes, I have big plans for myself and dream of having a big, positive impact on the world. Those things may or may not come in time.
All I know is that this is the life I have right now, and if I’d like “more and better” (a phrase from a special lady named Roz Lawler) then I’ve got to acknowledge and be grateful for what I have now and know that THIS is my good life — what we focus on we get more of. So start where you.
For me, my good life is sitting at the dinner table with my kids enjoying the meal I made, telling me about their day, and whatever else they want to tell me about (mostly computer games). I am so grateful that they talk to me and want to share things with me, so I listen as though it’s one of the most important things in the world to me — which it is!
It’s an ordinary moment, sitting at the table having dinner, yet it’s become one of my most treasured times of connection with my family. I make a point of seeing my kids for who they are in that moment, seeing how sweet and loveable they are. Knowing they’re growing up so fast, I take the time to take it in and cherish them.
The joy of good memories
As I get on in life I know that it’s my memory bank of the good memories that will fill me with joy as I look back on my life. Having great memories of exciting events or holidays is easier because they are different from the norm. However, for the majority of us, those really exciting times happen only occasionally. That’s why I acknowledge the goodness in the ordinary moments and consciously create good memories.
Think about it for a minute… when you get to that stage when you look back on your life and wonder what you did with it, will you be filled with joy with what you remember? Or will you have regrets?
The funny thing about what you remember is that you can choose to remember the good stuff or you can choose to remember the crappy stuff. What you remember will be what you choose to focus on.
So notice what you’re focusing on now… because it will become what you remember and how you feel about your life.
What does a good life mean to you?