Healing is possible

As we go through life, we sustain emotional wounds. Particularly throughout childhood when we’re young and vulnerable, things happened that hurt us — that hurt our hearts. A lot of those wounds never got the opportunity to heal, so by the time we get to being a grown up, for most of us, those wounds are still there.

And often without realising it, we end up living through those wounds. Some of the common ways I’ve seen it show up in people’s lives is as:

  • Dysfunctional behaviour that ends up causing more suffering.
  • Sabotaging our own happiness and success.
  • Dysfunctional relationships.
  • Repeated patterns of being treated badly by others.
  • Repeated patterns of treating other people badly.
  • Physical symptoms in the body, such as migraines, back problems, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, and many, many more.
  • Depression and anxiety.
  • Inability to sleep properly at night.

I’ve had clients who’ve been to psychologists to try and overcome their issues, and whilst for some it did help on one level, for others it ultimately didn’t bring them the healing they were after. That’s usually because whilst dealing with an emotional wound from a headspace is good for understanding logically what happened and how it’s affecting your life now, it doesn’t always get to the heart of the issue, which is the healing of your heart where the wound is.

The wonderful thing about the client who has done a lot of therapy to understand things on a logical level is that once they get to me, the healing usually happens more quickly.

“I don’t want to talk about the past.”

Sometimes people say they don’t want to talk about their past or their childhood. And you know what? They don’t have to. Because the truth is, all they have to do is look at the issues that are happening in their life right now and deal with those, and they will indeed be dealing with issues from childhood.

Those feelings of unworthiness that a person is feeling in their life as an adult came from their childhood.

It’s not necessarily about digging through the past and recalling all the painful things that happened. It’s about allowing the pain that is there to come out. It doesn’t matter whether you access that pain by remembering what happened when you were a child, or whether you access that pain by dealing with a current issue in your life. It’s the same pain.

It gets triggered in our daily lives anyway. The wound that didn’t get to heal will be triggered again and again.

The pain of not being seen, heard or valued at work or in your relationship with that person now is the same pain of not being seen, heard or valued when you were a child.

Emotional wounds keep us disconnected

A component of healing is processing the unprocessed pain that we’ve been pushing away. This unwillingness to feel the pain is what makes us become disconnected.

It’s normal. We all do it. We naturally avoid things that don’t feel good. However, sometimes we have to stop and recognise that we might actually be in pain. For many of us, we’ve gotten so good at suppressing the hurt and numbing out from it that we can become unconscious to the fact that we’re hurting.

Numbing out from pain doesn’t mean it’s not there. What it does mean, however, is that it can cause any number of those things I mentioned in the beginning:

  • Dysfunctional behaviour that ends up causing more suffering.
  • Sabotaging our own happiness and success.
  • Dysfunctional relationships.
  • Repeated patterns of being treated badly by others.
  • Repeated patterns of treating other people badly.
  • Physical symptoms in the body, such as migraines, back problems, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, and many, many more.
  • Depression and anxiety.
  • Inability to sleep properly at night.

The more stuff we don’t deal with, the more disconnected we become. And that disconnection is what causes these things.

True healing really is possible

I’m here to let you know that healing is possible — true, honest healing that heals your heart.

The kind of healing that allows you to feel connected again — connected to yourself and your inner guidance that guides you through life to make the healthier decisions that lead to more love, joy and success.

The kind of healing that allows you to experience the love and support you’ve craved, yet eluded you.

The kind of healing that allows you to be brave and put yourself out there and be seen, giving you the opportunity for true connection with others.

The kind of healing that allows you to feel good about yourself and to recognise your own value, so that you can feel true confidence.

The kind of healing where you know that you’re loved and approved of for who you truly are, rather than who you think you’re supposed to be — where you can be your true self. Being your true self is living in freedom. Being your true self is a mark of success. Being your true self is where other life successes can come from a strong foundation. When you build successes from a false façade of who you are, it can all come crumbling down at the first sign of disapproval from others.

If this is the kind of healing you’re ready for, I’d be honoured to facilitate that process for you. I do honestly see it as an honour — that a person is able to trust me with the most vulnerable parts of themselves. Because this is where we have to go for this kind of honest healing.

I know you’re brave enough to do it.

 


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